The 5 Ws of Accountability

Once a week I meet with Whitney Ryan for our accountability session and I better have my sh*t together for that call or else!  Há, in all seriousness, we get together to discuss last week’s goals, if we reached them (if we didn’t – why) and we then go over next week’s goals.  By having these calls, not only do you set serious goals, you also make sure you get them done.  Sure, there are times when things fall through the crack, but by having someone there, you make sure this does not become a continuous habit.  And it’s not just to have someone there to ‘reprimand‘ you when you screw up, but more so to have that support to figure out your challenges and ways to overcome them.  And when your strengths & weaknesses compliment each other you have a great fit!  Whitney, thank you for kicking my butt every Friday!

Having goals, a plan, and setting up time to focus on them is key.  Having an accountability partner or group is really the icing on the cake!  Some people hire a business or life coach, others find an accountability partner or group to hold each other accountable.  It can be done to reach a personal goal, fitness goal, business goal, a project, or just make sure you’re getting stuff done every day – the important stuff.

Over the years I’ve been in several of these partnerships and I’ve hired coaches – some with amazing results, some were OK, and some just ended up being a fiasco.  The key to having the right partnership is to think and plan ahead of time.  To help you look into starting or joining one, I’ve broken it down into the 5 Ws:

  1. Why – Why do you want to start or join a partnership?  First and foremost, be clear to yourself why you want/need to do this.  Once you start looking for partner(s), have that discussion.  You don’t all have the have the same goal, as long as it’s something you can support each other in.  It’s also a good idea to discuss your strengths and weaknesses.  Be open – be able to ask for help – and be willing to support and help others.
  2. WhatWhat are the goals of your sessions?  Be clear on what your goals are for your sessions together.  What are you going to cover during your sessions?  Are you going to track these sessions with notes or recordings?  Are you going to have accountability forms that you fill out and possibly track?  Decide and set up a structure for your sessions, because without one you can easily get sidetracked and you’ll leave the meeting feeling like you haven’t accomplished anything.
  3. WhoWho will be your partner in crime?  This is the most important ‘W’ of them all!  Make sure you find the right fit for you and the specific goal(s) you’re trying to accomplish – they don’t have to be in the same industry as you or have the exact same goals, as long as they understand what you’re trying
    to accomplish.  Some things to look for:

    • Say ‘Yes’ to people who are typically:
      • Positive & motivated
      • Take responsibility seriouslyaccountability-right-fit
      • Challenge you to do better
      • Are consistent
    • Say ‘No’ to people who are typically:
      • Late or no shows
      • Always have an excuse
      • Complain or are typically negative
      • Just not motivated
      • Or just don’t ‘get’ what it is you do or want to accomplish.
  4. WhereWhere do you do these sessions?  If you work in the same office or area you can meet for coffee of course, but in today’s digital world, you can practically meet anywhere.  For example:
    • By phone, FaceTime, Skype, …
    • By screenshare or webinar if you need to share something (Zoom, GoToMeeting, …)
    • Via email
    • In an online forum (a private group in LinkedIn or Facebook)
  5. WhenWhen do you do all this accountability?    This depends on the type of goals you have and the availability of everyone.  Sessions can be daily, weekly, monthly, or even quarterly.  Whatever you decide do them consistently.  And remember, you can mix it up – for example do weekly calls and quarterly in-person meetings or daily online check-ins and weekly calls.  I personally like doing my sessions on Friday, it’s perfect timing to close my week and plan for the following week.

All this prepping may seem like a lot, but it’s better to prepare and have the right set up, because if you don’t you may end up wasting everyone’s time and not accomplish what you started – which obviously is counterproductive.

What has your experience been in accountability partnerships?  Did you like the set up?  Were the sessions too structured, too flexible, or kinda perfect?  How did you meet?  I’d love to hear from you.